I am not talking about vulgar words. But listen to the apostle Paul share wisdom from the Spirit of God: “Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear” (Ephesians 4:29).
Just a few verses later, Paul continues: “there must be no filthiness and silly talk, or coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks” (Eph. 5:4).
Whoever said, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me,” did not know what he (or she) was talking about. Many parents forbid their kids from calling others “stupid.” That’s a great step in the right direction. But what about “jerk” or “idiot” or other synonyms?
We all need encouragement. Paul says we should say words that are “good for edification” (encouragement), words that are “according to the need of the moment.” Many times when someone is acting badly, being rude etc., that’s the time when we unleash on them verbally. But Paul says we should speak words that “give grace to those who hear.” That is, we use kind, encouraging words that they might not deserve. But we do it because we are followers of Christ.
Consider immersing your language in positive words of encouragement and affirmation. And be specific. Tell someone exactly what it was that you liked, rather than a generic “that was good.” The recipient will ask himself or herself, “what was good about it?”
We can go a long way in making other’s lives better by offering sincere and simple words of praise and encouragement. It is a “ministry” in and of itself to encourage others. Write notes – the art of handwriting letters is nearly dead! But it is so appreciated when it is done. Be different. Share the love of God through a well chosen word of hope and praise.
Paul Holland